July 24, 2013

Never Mind (the Haters)

What I Wore: H&M 'Never Mind' Top | GOWIGASA Cross Print Skirt, Studded Bag, and Lion Pendant Necklace | Swaychic Heels

A few days ago a fellow blogger asked me on Twitter if I've ever been bothered by 'haters'. Well, I guess if you are active in social media, it's likely that at some point you'll get at least one hater— it comes with the package! Not only in social media, you can also get spiteful haters in real life no matter how nice you think you are.

Dita Von Teese said it best:
"You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches."

Therefore the question is not "How to not be hated," it is "How to deal with haters." 

The best advice that has been proven to work for me is the classic "Never mind the haters." It's true, y'know, when you get back at haters, that just fuels them up to keep coming back at you. When you leave them alone, they leave you alone. In dealing with online haters, you can always use that cute 'block' button, it is there for a reason. Man, if I had a penny for every time I block someone. (Jess: "Me too!")

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”

...see? Why should you be upset over what small minded people has to think or say about you? 

To sum up, here's few sentences from Johnny Depp which is related to this issue and has inspired me a lot. It is one of the quotes I live by :) Thank you Mr. Sparrow!

"Just keep moving forward and don't give a shit about what anybody thinks. Do what you have to do, for you."

X O X O,
Elle Yamada


  1. Love the look so much, especially those heels <3


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  2. Stunning look as always, Elle! I am so in love with your amazing skirt and how it goes perfectly with your clutch! Also, those shoes are simply stunning :) I agree with you, let haters be haters. Wear what makes you feel comfortable, happy and confident! If you want to look at it from a positive angle, people just have different views on things and none of them are wrong or right!


  3. Your outfit is awesome!
    I don't get why people automatically hate people they've never met. It's fine to have your own opinion but when you go out of your way to try to make them feel bad, I don't see the point.
    I like your attitude towards haters :)

    Put The Radio On

  4. so true! <3
    i super love your top ci! lucu bangets~

  5. Totally agree with you! Just focus on what you do and don't let haters stir you. Love this outfit anyway. And your feet look pretty in those red heels. Just amazing!!

  6. true that. just don't mind your haters. I guess we should even thank them, because they're our biggest fan :)


  7. johnny depp is such inspiration too for me. let haters talking behind us, we'll be famous bcs of em! ;)

  8. gorgeous outfit!! =`)


  9. totally agree with you ci
    and you look beautiful as always :)


  10. I love your hair so much how did you do that ;__;


  11. true that! ^^/
    btw love your top and heels here :D

    cheer, michelle

  12. Super swag! But the red heels give the look a little more sophisticated edge ;)


  13. so true, totally agree!
    super love your skirt! pretty xx

  14. Great!! The heels are so wonderful <3

  15. Great advice! totally agree!


  16. Hey Elle, I've been a silent reader for the blog for a while, and for this post I really appreciate you sharing your confidence on dealing with haters. Still struggling with people-pleasing here, but just wanna say thanks for your message. It's encouraging.

    Superb shoes btw :)

  17. Awesome! You are very cute! Dont worry about the hater, I'm always support you! I love your shoes, where I can buy that one? (with cheaper price ^^)

    1. I just buy some dress like that at Zalora. Now they have special deal, discount 15%. I get this info from http://e-vouchers.co.id/ Save my money ^^

  18. So gorgeous ci El ^^~

    Karina Dinda R. ♥

  19. love your pics so much!
    following each other would be great!


  20. Muach ci Elle! Lol Great post! Akhir2 ini dealing with haters to in real life, and postny ngena banget! I love how you said narrow minded/small minds people discuss people--because that is just so true! Like they got nothing better to talk about. Go go go!